Your wife has left you and you want to get her back. But how can you get her back if she refuses to talk to you? How will you ever be able to communicate your desire to work on your marriage and repair deeds done wrong if she won’t talk to you?
It really doesn’t matter what your situation is or why you broke up but right now your wife doesn’t want a relationship with you. I know that this may seem harsh but there is good news. It is absolutely possible to get your wife back and repair your relationship. Of course, right now for you opening the lines of communication are your top priority, right?
Hold off on continuing to attempt to open the lines of communication. By continuing to try to contact her and tell her that you want to work on your marriage you are probably being a pest. In addition, by trying to talk to her or email or text her daily or frequently you are lowering yourself and making yourself appear needy and weak in her eyes.
What happened to that fun guy that used to make her laugh? Do you remember that guy? He was cool or at least cool enough for her that she agreed to marry you. That wasn’t a fluke, my friend! Tell me, did that guy spend a lot of time talking about the problems in the relationship or focusing on the negative? Did he ever point out incompatibilities between the two of you? Probably not. He probably didn’t focus on that kind of stuff and instead he made her feel fabulous and hot and sexy and intelligent and wanted.
Somewhere along the line things got messed up and here you are. There are probably a ton of things that she told you that you did wrong and that everything was your fault. Perhaps that is all that you can see right now and that’s all you want to do is change the things that she said were wrong and then she will have to agree to come back, right?
The fact is that actions speak louder than words. If there are things that you need to change then by all means change them. But don’t expect her to jump up and down and come running back because you did what she told you to do now that your back is up against the wall. She may notice the changes but silently, without a word, she is going to be waiting to see if you follow through.
In the meantime, she doesn’t want to talk about the marriage, any possibility of getting back together or the changes that you are making. If there is any hope for opening the lines of communication between the two of you the conversation is going to have to benefit her in some way. Can you make her laugh again? Can you tell her something funny that happened recently? Do you have some great news to share with her?
Could any of these things lead to the type of communication that you used to have when things were going well between the two of you? These are the types of things that you should be wanting to talk with her about…not your relationship. Once she connects with you again then she will want to know about what is going on in your life and not a moment sooner.
Of course, how you talk to her is just as important as what you say once the topic of your relationship comes up again…and it will come up. There might be times when talking with her could be described more as listening to her but if you know anything about women you know that this is very important to your wife.
If you have any chance of getting your wife back learn how to communicate with her without placing blame. Any attempt to defend yourself by blaming her will bring you right back to the days when she wasn’t talking with you. But it is absolutely possible to turn things around in your marriage and get her back without making her agree to counseling or couples therapy. The key is knowing how to talk to your wife again.
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